Stop the insanity!

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X is insane!

No, really. I believe that he is mentally disturbed. I do. I think I have proof.

1. X told The Boy (aka Oldest) that he was not going to go to the wedding for several reasons. I think I've mentioned them. He hasn't known her that long, he's not ready yada yada yada. The day before the wedding he called The Boy and told him the real reason that he was not going is because he was broke. Desperate financial situation is how he put it. Remember this because this is important.

As a side note I am glad that he told The Boy this little lie. Oldest was very depressed about the whole thing. His dad wouldn't take his calls, it was all so hostile and weird.

2. And this is a long story. I got the house in the settlement. We always had our insurance and taxes paid with our mortgage payment. It was just easier that way. So then, I got a new tenant in the house and updated my policy. I didn't realize that I was changing insurance companies. I just thought I was changing agents. Farmers, State Farm, they both sound the same right? (BELIEVE ME, IT ISN'T) I have an agent friend (with State Farm) and asked him to update my policy. Again I want everything paid with the mortgage so I thought no more about it.

Well my original policy was with Farmers. Farmers! Not State Farm. Everything should have been taken care of last year, last June, when I got the house. Somehow, it did not. So, SURPRISE! I had money in the impound account. Lots! Well, not like I can retire lots, but, you know, it's good, it's a good amount. The majority of the money was prior to me taking sole title, some money, under $200.00 was after I took title. So that's the jist of it.

Somehow X got wind of this check. It was issued in his name. Only his name. When I inquired about this I was told it was changed. The policy was originally in both our names and then was changed. (At one point during our marriage X tried to get me off title, he changed as many things to his name as he could) I let Farmers know that regardless of how the policy reads, it was OUR home and I sent title information to this effect to them. And the new title and when I acquired the house.

X and girlie let me know right away that the policy was in his name and only in his name and they would like the check. I let them know that we could cash this check together OR I'll send it back and get it issued correctly. They let me know that they WOULD NOT be going anywhere with me and that I should send the check to them and they would give me my portion.

Laugh with me! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Whew! That was good!

All of this communication is being done by email. (Thanks! I have records of everything now.) I send the check back and wait for the new check. When it arrives I let them know that I have it and to let me know when it would be convenient to cash it and where. We live about an hour apart so we could do it there or here when he is in town. I'm sent this scorching email, didn't I understand the last email? The ONLY way that check is getting cashed is if I endorse it and send it to them. THEY ARE NOT GOING ANYWHERE WITH ME!

(desperate financial situation starts wringing in my ears)

The following Monday I let them know that I'll be in OC if they would like to meet somewhere.

Silence.

The Monday after that I let them know that since most of the money is technically mine, I WONT BE ENDORSING THE CHECK OVER TO THEM! I outline the amounts where they get, oh about $250 less than 1/2 the check.

That night girlie is hot on the phone. (I never get to talk to X, either he doesn't want to or she wont let him, either way, who cares, they are both nut jobs)

She first is emphatic.

her: We will not be going anywhere with you. Bottom line. It's just not going to happen. If you want to cash this check, the ONLY way is if you endorse it over to us. There's only one way it's going to get done. End of story!

me: That's not the only way it's going to get done. I guess I'll go to court, then he'll have to pay court costs which will cut into his portion. We can do that if we need to. But that's up to X, this has nothing to do with you anyway.
her: The check belongs to X. Yes it does. You see, who paid the mortgage during that time period? (girlie is talking to me as if I am a first grader, in this little teacher/authoritative voice)
me: X did.
her: Good! Let me put it this way, if X paid the water bill. He pays the water bill and he sends in, oh, lets say $100 too much. Do you think you would be entitled to that money?
me: No, I don't.
her: Then why do you think you should have that money?
me: Well, this is not a utility, it is money placed in an impound account to pay taxes and insurance on the house. Which was in both our names, and then in only mine.
her: Ah, but you didn't pay the mortgage during that time, X did, you contributed nothing.
me: Ah, this is true, however, legally it was OURS and then MINE, so I can legally claim it, and I intend to.
her: So you agree that X is entitled solely to that money?
me: No, I agree that he is entitled to half of the first amount, and none of the second amount.
her: And you agree that you didn't pay the mortgage during that time?
me: That's correct.
her: Don't you think it's only FAIR that he gets the check?
me: Fair or not I am legally entitled to that money and I intend to get my portion.

Then she drags out the trust issue. Yeah.

her: What on earth happened during your marriage that you don't think you can trust him?
me: Oh dear, we just haven't the time to go into all that today. Besides, I've moved on, no need to rehash the ugly past, eh?
her: Well why don't you think you can trust him now?
me: For the very reasons you just outlined. He wants the whole check and thinks he's entitled to it all.
her: Yes he does, but, X is a man of his word. Everybody that knows him knows this. If X says something, he does it by golly. He always does what he says he going to do, so, even if he THINKS he should get it all, he is WILLING to split it with you. And all you have to do is sign it over to him.
me: No.

(Isn't it generous of him to let me have my half? Also, man of his word? never has been, not to anyone that knows him. She will find out in due time.)

No more really needs to be said. I have the check in my hot little hand, it's in both our names, and if he wants it he's going to have to cooperate just a little.

Somehow I mentioned that I found it strange that he just couldn't go to the bank with me. After all, he leaves little notes on our car when he sees it in a parking lot. Cute little notes that say 'sorry we missed you' and 'hope we put a smile on your face'. Don't you think it's odd? Absolutely not, she insists, you misunderstand, those notes are nice, it's a nice thing to do! You don't find it odd, I say, that he leaves friendly little notes on our car but can't go to the bank to cash a check? I find it odd. I find it disturbing. And another good reason not to trust him.

She then goes into this little song and dance about poor X's life, and how nobody understands him, how everyone rejected him, even his family, and if I walked in his shoes, if only I could walk in his shoes, I would understand. (X and I were together for about 30 years, married for 23 of those, I wonder, does she think I don't know him very well? Maybe I hadn't heard all the stories?)

me: Then lets cash this check! He can buy a brand new pair of happy shoes! (because really, no really, what does any of that have to do with cashing a check?)

her: I don't think that's funny, not funny at all, that little comment about the shoes. That is very sarcastic. (what? me?)

She did not appreciate it, no, not one little bit. I apologize. I hope I sounded sincere, actually, no, I don't really care if I sounded sincere.

The saga is not over, they have a plan. A great plan. I'll fill you in later.